A Gigolo’s Perspective On Life.

Those who suffered the most can be the greatest warriors.

Nick Hawk by Mark Leita

I was looking for an answer. I just wanted to watch that video. It was interesting for me to find out if the life of a gigolo is in any way close to the life of a prostitute or an escort. I admit that my curiosity was focused on finding out what women want. In particular, what fantasies they have, what they want to experience, what they want men to do with them, or what they want to do with men.

I had watched quite a few interviews with prostitutes and escorts who shared their stories, and I formed the following conclusion in my head. A large percentage of men who rely on such services are looking for new sensations and experiences. In most cases, these experiences are associated with the manifestation of bad behavior towards them: insulting, hitting, slapping, spitting on their face, and other things which I do not want to mention here.

Moreover, even a male stripper shared a similar story. One of his clients is a man who just wants to be humiliated. This man pays a huge amount of money to listen to a person degrading him. I can’t go deeper into the subject or explain what these inclinations are due to, but from a psychological point of view, it is interesting.

I may not have received an answer yet, but what Nick shared in the interview deserves to be heard by more people. Enjoy!

1. You don’t know better when you’re a child. You don’t know what’s going on. You can be a victim and not know it.
2. At the time I didn’t know. I didn’t understand the problems of two kids when they’re 20 having a child and usually what happens from that. It’s rarely that child develops to be a confident and capable individual. Very recently and many studies will indicate that they do fall off the track and take bad paths when it comes to drugs, other addictions, depression and not being confident more than anything. When kids have kids it’s rare that they’re confident. Much less they know how to be confident. Much less they know how to teach confidence. Much less they know how to teach a child confidence.
3. I do come to believe that those who suffered the most can be the greatest warriors.
4. Whenever you go on a date with somebody you’re hopeful you two will connect and it’ll lead to that. We all wanna have sex. We’re all sexual people and it’s unfortunate that we don’t, we aren’t able to connect more with people and experience that more. But that’s always the hope. When you’re on a date with somebody, especially with someone to who you’re attracted or someone who takes immaculate care of themselves, mentally and physically.
5. They [women] do look for more of connection. I believe that men and women both want that. Just men have been conditioned and programmed differently to think that what they need is just to get off real quick and screw as many girls as possible. It’s unfortunate because deep down if anybody’s being honest with you everybody wants a lot more than that. If that’s all you get you’re going to feel empty.
6. The guy or the girl who’s trying to get a quick fix, doesn’t work like that. When you’re with somebody and you’re intimate with them your energies intertwine and you connect with them. When you just leave that behind and there’s no other fulfillment on a mental level it’s just such a waste. We’re just conditioned so poorly to believe that that’s what we should desire.
7. I only see people who I’m gonna see again.
8. What do women want? Everyone wants the same thing, it’s not just women. We want connection, we don’t want a quick fix.
9. Nobody knows what they are doing. People know so little about relationships. Nobody understands what they want, nobody gives themselves enough time to sit, reflect, meditate. We’re just plugged into this world, we’re driven by money, we don’t have time for anything, nobody prioritized what the most important things are and it is reflecting upon what we truly desire and digging into our heart and soul, sitting in silence and listening. So few people do that so.
10. So few people know what they want.
11. Lonely is a choice. The problem with being lonely is if you don’t spend enough time being alone you will forever be lonely because you won’t find the answers that will take you to a place to be able to connect with people and know what you do desire and want.
12. “Can be lonely but we’re not alone”. I’ve played with those words a lot to dig into what loneliness really is. It’s not being alone. You got to be alone, you got to be happy alone, you got to love yourself. You got to do these things to have the chance of meeting someone else who’s developed and put that work in too.
13. I’m a firm believer, I know for sure that we all have the same brain; we’re all born with the same brain; we’re a product of our environment and experiences. We have to have that guidance…We all have the same brain, we all have the same capabilities and we all just need that right motivation, drive, push, guidance to push us to go in the right direction. I don’t believe that some people have more courage than others.
14. If we operate our full potential that we do have the possibility of establishing and experiencing free will.
15. We become creators and we decide how capable, confident and courageous we are.
16. Don’t lie. It’s one of the biggest things you have to do to evolve and be able to get in touch with these things. Evolve and listen to your soul. You can’t lie. You got to stop lying about everything.
17. Sleeping with people I didn’t connect and communicate with on a great level even, it’s a lie. You’re insulting yourself and you’re doing something you shouldn’t be doing.
18. More than anything with confidence you need to develop your intuition with other people. You need to start reading them. You need to start seeing through the show that most people put on. When you start seeing that — no, very few people are confident. For most people, it’s a show. Then you start realizing that…you got to go for it, you got to put yourself out there.